When we see a friend in pain, we are often quick to spout cliches.  Yet these are the very times we would usually do well to just be there and to be a good listener.  James tells us to be slow to speak and quick to listen.  That’s good advice.

When we rush in with words, we usually fail to appreciate the true situation and often our words ring hollow.  Even when the words are true, the one who needs comfort may not be in a place to listen just yet.  We do well to listen and understand.  We do well to allow the suffering person to vent their feelings and frustrations.  We do well to just be there.

Job’s friends rushed in with words before really understanding the situation.  Their words didn’t bring the needed healing and only seemed to bring additional frustration.

There will come a day for encouraging words.  There will come a time for advice.  There will come a day when then words will be welcome.  Until then, be there–be fully there.  Listen. Pray.  Then you will be the kind of friend we all need in difficult times.

Pastor Jeff